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Turn and face the strange

I grew up in a very small town. Population 2800. Everyone is connected in one way or another. My mother was my 5th grade teacher for goodness sakes (and before you ask, she gave me a “C”).

From the time I was 2 years old I had a core group of friends that I hung out with. Our parents were friends, we attended elementary school together (my mom was their teacher, too), our families vacationed together, we went to the same high school, and we even worked at the same restaurant during college breaks.

I decided to move across the country a year after I graduated college. I knew one person, I didn’t have a place to live, I had no job, I was chasing a dream that my parents were wonderful enough to encourage. It was all very scary and exhilarating at the same time.

I remember the week before I moved I was hanging out with my friends sharing how afraid I was to leave and start this whole new life. I explained that I didn’t want to miss anything. I wanted to still be a part of everything. One of my friends looked at me and smiled saying, “Don’t worry nothing ever changes around here. Everything will still be the same when you come back to visit.” I took comfort in her words. It made it easier for me to leave. I don’t know if that was her intention or if she even knew her words eased my worry. But she was wrong.

Over the years so many things have changed: there have been marriages, births, deaths, new jobs, many gains, and many losses.

I have heard a million times that things don’t change. Here is what I have found. Everything changes. Everyone changes. The real victory is how we handle that change. Will you kick and scream and pound your fists? I’ve done that. Will we smile and face it gracefully? I’ve done that (much less than the kicking and screaming).

When I do go home to visit, it’s a bittersweet reminder that life is series of changes. They need to happen in order to have any sort of movement or growth. We change our clothes every day, seasons change, we change channels to find something more entertaining or thought provoking on TV.

Here’s the beauty in life. We get to choose how we turn and face the new, the different and.the strange. What choice will you make?

“People don’t fear change, they fear the idea of loss.”

Melanie
  • Shelly Mobus

    I always enjoy your posts! Thanks for sharing!

  • shawn Dreger

    I love the article, things do change even though we think they don’t.

  • shawn Dreger

    I was at Mar Tech Trends in PHoenix and Joe said the more things change the more they stay the same. I love this article because it’s true that even though we think things don’t change, they in fact do.

  • http://www.iPraful.com Praful Thakkar

    What matters most is when we go back – things may have changed, not the love from the people who are still around.
    I am in India with my family and do see some changes in the material world – not in the ‘connection’ or relationship or bond we had….

  • Steve Poole

    Change is everywhere. Either we change or life changes us in ways we may not like!
    .

  • Loretta Ann McElwee

    Embrace the Change! 🙂

  • Shelly Mobus

    Great post! 🙂

  • Teresa

    I grew up on a farm in a small rural area/town. Things do change but dear people and work ethic of that small town and rural area has not changed. People still stop by for coffee unannounced. I love that.

    • Buffini & Company

      A strong community like that is wonderful. Love hearing stories like that!

  • jennifer mason

    Your mother was your 5th grade teacher – seems like a conflict of interest!!

  • http://www.iPraful.com Praful Thakkar

    What matters most is when we go back – things may have changed, not the love from the people who are still around.

    I am in India with my family and do see some changes in the material world – not in the ‘connection’ or relationship or bond we had….

  • Nancy L Piland

    You really notice the changes because you are not there. The people back home won’t see the changes they way you do.

  • James Sharp

    Great blog post Mel!

  • Charles Ross

    Blog was good and we live in a ever changing world

  • Gail Enman Carter

    Great blog post!

  • Loretta Ann McElwee

    Embrace the Change! 🙂

  • markjak

    Its not about that change is constant, its about how you accept it in your life.

  • markjak

    Its not how things change its how you make it part of your life.

  • Jack Cekovic

    Great post

  • Jack Cekovic

    Great post

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